Tuesday, 24 March 2015

How to Be the Best Version of You

How to Be the Best Version of You


“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” –Steve Jobs


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Truly happy and successful people get that way by becoming the best, most genuine version of themselves they can be. Not on the outside–on the inside. It’s not about a brand, a reputation, a persona. It’s about reality. Who you really are.


Sounds simple, I know. It is a simple concept. The problem is, it’s very hard to do, it takes a lot of work, and it can take a lifetime to figure it out.


Nothing worth doing in life is ever easy. If you want to do great work, it’s going to take a lot of hard work to do it. And you’re going to have to break out of your comfort zone and take some chances that will scare the crap out of you.


But you know, I can’t think of a better way to spend your life. I mean, what’s life for if not finding yourself and trying to become the best, most genuine version of you that you can be?


That’s what Steve Jobs meant when he said this at a Stanford University commencement speech:


Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.


You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something–your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.


The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.

Now, let’s for a moment be realistic about this. Insightful as that advice may be, it sounds a little too amorphous and challenging to resonate with today’s quick-fix culture. These days, if you can’t tell people exactly what to do and how to do it, it falls on deaf ears.


Not only that, but what Jobs was talking about, what I’m talking about, requires focus and discipline, two things that are very hard to come by these days. Why? Because, focus and discipline are hard. It’s so much easier to give in to distraction and instant gratification. Easy and addictive.


To give you a little incentive to take on the challenge, to embark on the road to self-discovery, here are three huge benefits from working to become the best, most genuine version of yourself.


It will make you happy. Getting to know yourself will make you feel more comfortable in your own skin. It will reduce your stress and anxiety. It will make you a better spouse, a better parent, a better friend. It will make you a better person. Those are all pretty good reasons, if you ask me.


Besides, you really won’t achieve anything significant in life until you know the real you. Not your brand, your LinkedIn profile, how you come across, or what anyone thinks of you. The genuine you. There’s one simple reason why you shouldn’t try to be something you’re not, and it’s that you can’t. The real you will come out anyway. So forget your personal brand and start spending time on figuring out who you really are and trying to become the best version of that you can be.


You pay a huge price when you engage in mindless distraction. The only people that really care about you are your loved ones, your friends and family. Everyone else is too busy living his own little mini drama. To put it bluntly, your network couldn’t care less about you.


That’s why engaging yourself and others in mindless distraction isn’t worth your time or theirs. More important, it will absolutely keep you from focusing on accomplishing whatever great things you might manage to achieve in life if you set your mind to it.


There’s a business concept called opportunity cost. When you choose one course of action, you miss out on all the other opportunities you might have chosen to pursue but didn’t. People rarely stop to consider that until it’s too late.


It’s the most exciting journey you will ever embark on. We’re all enthralled by adventure. We love to read and watch movies about other people’s journeys, real or imagined. The Hobbit. Raiders of the Lost Ark. Into Thin Air.


We love to take vacations, to travel to all sorts of places. And when we do, we revel in the natural beauty of Kauai’s Na Pali Coast, the Grand Canyon, the Alps. We marvel at the great works of others: the art, the architecture, the Pyramids, Stonehenge.


And yet, the opportunity for adventure is right there in front of each and every one of us. Until you take it, you’ll never know what you might achieve. What marvels you might create. What you might discover. All you have to do is start the journey.



How to Be the Best Version of You

Sunday, 22 March 2015

Benefits of Becoming a Life Coach

Benefits of Becoming a Life Coach


1. Life Coaching and Business Coaching is a rewarding and fulfilling career choice.

Coaches LOVE what they do because they enjoy helping people get what they most want in life. Just think about it – you work with positive people who are eager to learn and achieve. They want your support and the benefits of your training and are willing to pay for it.


2. Coaches enjoy the freedom to live and work anywhere they wish.

Coaches can coach from their homes, an outside office or while travelling. Because coaching can be done by telephone, location and geographical boundaries become irrelevant. A coaching practice is portable so if you move or travel the country in an RV, you can coach your clients.


3. Being a coach accelerates your personal and professional development.

If you enjoy developing yourself and understand the value of ongoing learning, you’ll enjoy being a coach because you’re in an environment that encourages growth. Because your coachees are on a fast track, your pace is naturally accelerated, because you learn from each other. It’s that simple.


4. A coaching business has the potential to bring in a high income.

Coaches in private practice average $130 an hour in coaching fees, with the range being between $100 and $300 per hour. Because coaching is so effective, coachees can achieve significant results in as little as 30 minutes a week with you. So, if you charge them $350 a month (the international average for experienced coaches), you’ll work with each coachee for two hours a month, for an average of $175 an hour.


5. You will flourish in an expanded professional network and community.

Success today is largely dependent on the size and strength of your personal and professional network. The more people you get to know – and who get to know you – the better for your long-term financial success and professional development. As a coach, you instantly expand your network given the cooperative and collaborative way coaches interact. In fact, our students tell us that one of the greatest advantages of training at CoachInc.com is the personal and professional relationships that they have made.


6. New coaches enter the profession easily and proceed at their own pace.

You do not need to take 3 years off and become a full-time student to become a coach. You can stay in your current profession and learn at your own pace. You can complete core training in as little as one year or take up to three years – it’s entirely up to you.


7. You can earn while you learn.

Many coaches start coaching within the six months of entering our training programs and most are earning fees shortly thereafter. It’s very important to coach while you learn and learn while you coach.


8. Coaching is a way to make a difference in others’ lives.

Coaches like helping others improve the quality of their lives and achieve their goals. Many of our students have always wanted to make a difference in this world, and being a coach lets them see the impact they have on other peoples’ lives.


9. Their chosen profession brings coaches great joy.

When you feel better at the end of a day than you did at the start of the day, joy is likely present. Coaching invigorates both parties – thanks to synergy, it creates energy, and becomes even more joyful.


10. Coaching is a platform from which to launch yourself, if desired.

When you learn coaching skills and take your personal and professional development to the next level, you may develop a local, regional, national and even international reputation. This gives you many options – writing a book, teaching TeleClasses or live trainings, publishing e-newsletters, forming communities, getting business invitations from others and more.


Several CoachInc.com graduates are popular authors. Oprah! featured Coach U graduate Laura Berman Fortgang, author of Take Yourself to the Top: Secrets of America’s #1 Career Coach, and Cheryl Richardson, who also appeared on Oprah, wrote Take Time for Your Life, as well as other best-selling books.


Summing Up…


Everyone has his or her own reasons for becoming a life coach or a business coach, but almost every coach enjoys the ten benefits just outlined. The question to ask yourself is how you would benefit by becoming a coach.


Perhaps the most exciting benefit is that you can identify and work with your Ideal Client/Coachee. What personality traits would they have? What do they want out of life? What past experiences have they had? What motivates them? What do they want to accomplish? What is most important to them? Answering these questions will help you know exactly who you can start coaching right away.



Benefits of Becoming a Life Coach

Wednesday, 18 March 2015

COMBINED LIFE COACH AND NLP COURSE (FULL CERTIFICATION)

Combined life coach and NLP certification


The secret of the world’s most successful coaches is the array of powerful strategies they have at their disposal to create effective, lasting change in any case that presents itself. Our integrated Life Coach and NLP Certification program – offered by no other institute – puts these strategies directly in your hands. A truly professional coach will be certified in both complementary disciplines.


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Course details


Time frame:

Prepare for 9 full days of intense training and practical examination. Courses run from Saturday to the following Sunday for minimal disruption to work obligations. Start at 9am and finish no later than 6pm. The first 7 days reveal the principles and techniques employed by top coaches. The 8th day is for self-study and practical preparation for exams on the 9th day, followed by certification and graduation.


Costs:

FULL CASH PAYMENT: ONLY R15 800.00 PER PERSON

BOOK NOW for EARLY BIRD DISCOUNTS up to 20% and pay only R 12640                    


Outcome:

The Life Coach element of the training focuses on creating action and motion to ensure your client achieves a balanced goal orientated life. The NLP element assist with removing fears, phobias and limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering subconscious thought patterns that brings about true change in our lives and that of our clients. The complimentary disciplines of Coaching and NLP is extremely powerful in unlocking the true potential in yourself and your clients.

Our training is designed to revolutionize our student’s thought patterns. You will learn skills and techniques to effectively create long lasting improvement to your life and be able to create positive change in others. The tools and techniques you will learn will provide you with a real edge to bring about positive change. At this course participants will learn how to apply Life Coaching and NLP effectively. You will be taught to become an NLP Practitioner and a Life Coach. It is 2 courses/skill sets that have been combined into 1 powerful course.


Benefit


On successful completion you may join  the Action Factory Coaching Community. It is a body of previous students that meet approximately every 6 weeks to share experiences, new techniques, refresh old learning’s and uplift one another.


This course is designed to install a new “frame of mind”. You will have a clear understanding on the basic functionality of how the mind works.


You will be trained by an Internationally Certified Master and Trainer in NLP and Life Coaching. The subjects are taught individually yet the skills are integrated for high performance and efficiency.


This course is designed to install skills and techniques. NLP is acclaimed for its “magic” techniques. NLP is widely used to support a variety of psychological behaviors.


Many of us live with fears, phobias, limiting beliefs, unwanted programs and obsessive behaviors which we wish we could change. With NLP you can.


We teach a wide range of personal change techniques so no person any longer has to ‘live with’ the problem. Do you want to bring about positive change or a new “frame of mind” in others? This course is designed to equip you with the required skills and techniques to become a Professional NLP Life Coach.


Our World has become increasingly complex and interconnected. We have busy and active lives into which we seek to fit more and more.


So many more people are now seeking NLP Coaching because it offers them an opportunity to create real lasting change into their lives. This includes individuals, business, and professionals searching for specific guidance and support. At its basic level, NLP Coaching is about helping someone move from where they are to where they want to get to.


Some Subjects


What is NLP?

What is Life Coaching Definitions

Presuppositions

Maps of the World

Belief Change

Behavioral Frames

Fun Goal Setting Activities

Visualization

Sensory Acuity

Generalisation, Deletion and Distortion

Calibrating to good / bad reaction

Calibrate to your own state of congruence

State Elicitation Exercise

Rapport

Problem solving techniques and questions

Changing to a ‘Towards’ Strategy Exercise

Reversal Questions

The Disney Pattern

Well Formed Outcomes

Goal Setting

Anchoring

Knowing your strengths and playing to your strengths

Staying in a Great State

Milton Model

Creating Presuppositions

Chunking

Proactive / Reactive

Sub modalities

Critical Distinctions

Fast Phobia Cure

Swish Pattern Exercise

Godiva Chocolate Pattern Exercise

T.O.T.E. and Strategies

Strategies

GROW  Predicates

Predicate Words

Eye Accessing Cues

VAKOG Language

Changing Feelings

Values

Meta Programs

Motivation Traits

Working Traits

The Resource Triangle Exercise

Getting to the real problem

Logical Levels

Alignment of Self

A Strategy for Responding to Criticism

New behaviour generator

Pattern Interrupts and Break States

Backtrack Frame

Perceptual Positions

Meta Model

Precision Model

Meta Model & Logical Levels

Meta Model Distinctions

A Strategy for Responding to Criticism Exercise

Parts and Framing

Conflicting Parts Exercise

Parts Integration Process (the ‘Visual Squash) Exercise

The parts Party Process Exercise

In Time / Through Time

Timeline Change Personal History

Six Step Re frame

Re framing

Unpacking a Problem

Important points for a Life Coach to know


and more…….


If you are passionate to become an NLP Practitioner and Life Coach this course is the best value course on offer in South Africa.


 



COMBINED LIFE COACH AND NLP COURSE (FULL CERTIFICATION)

Sunday, 15 March 2015

Career Shift: Becoming A Life Coach

Career Shift: Becoming A Life Coach


Boomers figuring out what they’ll do in retirement are asking themselves lots of questions: How can I make a difference? What will be my legacy? How can I create enough flexibility to travel, have fun and spend time with friends and family?


These questions are, in turn, leading a growing number of us to work part-time in retirement as life coaches — where we ask questions of others. According to a 2012 study by the International Coaching Federation and PriceWaterhouseCoopers, roughly 39% of coaches in North America are 55 or older. That percentage is expected to rise as more boomers seek semi-retirement careers.


Why Boomers Become Life Coaches


Many turn to life coaching in retirement because they value personal growth and being of service. The field is also often favored by people with life lessons that they want to share, saving others some of the pains and pitfalls they might otherwise encounter.


Peter Franklin, 61, of Marblehead, Mass., had been a high school teacher for 16 years. But he came to the realization that he was ready for something different to culminate his career. Today, Franklin runs e-Factor Coaching.


“Coaching has given me the opportunity and impetus to combine the many facets of my careers: teaching, consulting, training and development,” he says.


For many boomers, the coaching niche lets them give back to others in their former field. “When I looked back at my career, I truly enjoyed leading sales teams and helping those professionals achieve and exceed their goals,” says former sales manager Mark Ratfelders, 58, who now runs MJR Coaching in Gurnee, Ill. ”So that’s what I coach. I spend my days helping sales professionals match their strengths, talents and values with their current job, performance and goals.”


How Coaches Coach


In a typical life coaching session, the adviser uses questioning techniques and other reflective and perspective-challenging practices so a client can create action plans for his or her next steps. Life coaching is meant to propel forward action, showing clients how to increase their self-awareness, clarify their goals, raise their confidence and commitment and identify paths forward.


Clients range from corporate executives and educators to stay-at-home moms. They may be looking for ways to boost or transition careers, build their businesses, create a more balanced life, or just get unstuck.


How to Become a Coach


Life coaching is ideally suited to people in or near retirement because it can be done part-time — often by phone or Skype.  (Some life coaches work full-time, too.)


When starting out as a life coach, you typically might earn R550 an hour or so; R950 to R2500 an hour or more if you’re coaching executives. (The 30- or 60-minute sessions are typically weekly or bi-weekly and continue for as long as clients want.)


Rewards That Aren’t Monetary


Many who’ve become coaches say their new work provides psychic benefits, too.


As Linda Garneau, 54, a former professional development leader who now runs Wings to Freedom Coaching in Herndon, says: “Being a coach at this stage of my life allows me to live with a clear purpose and make the difference I did not make in my younger years, but am certainly going to make now.”



Career Shift: Becoming A Life Coach

BECOME A LIFE COACH

BECOME A LIFE COACH


Get Paid to Help People Achieve Success.


 


Imagine having a rewarding, high paying job coaching people to achieve success in their work, relationships and life. You can if you become a life coach. As a life coach you will help people identify what is holding them back from having everything they want in business or life, and coach them to overcome those challenges.


About a Career as a Life Coach

People use life coaches for the same reason that they use sports coaches: they want someone to work with them, to encourage them, to push them.


Coaches have “clients” instead of “patients.” Instead of telling clients what they should do, you will act as a facilitator to help them figure out solutions for themselves. As a life coach, your job is to listen, to ask questions, and to give honest feedback.


Many people who hire life coaches are already successful, but want to achieve more. Senior executives, for example, often want the unbiased feedback a coach will give them through executive coaching.


Other people want a life coach to assist them in achieving a more rewarding job, better relationships, more free time, or to improve some other life area. They may have difficulty setting goals or finding the courage to do what they want instead of what others expect of them.


As a life coach you may decide to assist anyone who wants coaching, or choose to specialize in coaching people in a specific area, such as:


– business

– careers

– environmental impact

– family

– leadership

– mid-life

– relationships

– retirement

– spirituality

– self-awareness

– time management

– wellness

– weight management

– work/life balance


Within each of these areas, there are many opportunities for life coaches. For example, as a relationship coach, you might work with married couples, gay couples, singles who are seeking a partner, or anyone else who wants the guidance a coach can give to improve relationships.


Likewise, successful companies (such as Kodak, IBM and Marriott) hire corporate coaches to help employees achieve greater success in a variety of areas. In addition to executive coaching, many corporate coaches get paid thousands of dollars a day for leading training programs to help employees reduce burnout, improve customer service, get along with co-workers, and maximize performance.


Action Factory is a Life coach and NLP practitioner training institute and has been certifying the countries best coaches for the past six years.


Enroll for one of our courses today and start your fulfilling career as a Life coach. View our courses for more details.



BECOME A LIFE COACH

Tuesday, 10 March 2015

What is NLP

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) has completely changed the lives of thousands of people world wide and is said to be the most valuable set of skills, tools and techniques ever put together. It is fast, it is effective and it is fun. Once you’ve done your NLP Practitioner training, you’ll have some awesome skills and very useful abilities to affect your communication with others fantastically and improve every area of your life in ways that will quite astonish you and those you live and work with. As an NLP Life Coach, you’ll be able to not only coach and champion people, you’ll also have the skills to help them overcome blocks that hinder their success.


 


NLP can be likened to a ‘tool box’ of mental, emotional and physical skills, tools and techniques collected from all forms of effective excellence in all walks of life. It is the study of what works well and what works quickly. It is about looking for excellence in people and then modelling that excellence so it can be replicated for use by and for the benefit of and others, including your self. Most of the tools, skills and techniques in NLP today came from modelling the excellence of exemplary people.


 


Your NLP training will teach you the methodology for you to learn and discover how to succeed and excel in your particular field of expertise. The secrets behind prosperity, success, achievement and brilliant human performance of every description have been studied and modelled by NLP masters for about 30 years now, and all of these results have been reduced to simple, very effective strategies that you will learn on your NLP training. The secrets of what makes great people great, what makes happiness and how to master your life are in the NLP tool kit for you to learn and install in yourself.


 


  • Confidence

  • The ‘flow state’ or the ‘zone’

  • Making people like you

  • Repairing troubled relationships

  • Building good strong relationships

  • Communicating excellently and effectively

  • Writing fantastic, moving speeches, letters and adverts

  • Persuading and influencing others

  • Getting rid of unwanted habits and behaviours

  • Recovering from past hurts, disappointments and traumas

  • Coping well with criticism and compliments

  • Gaining personal power and magnetism

  • Positive thinking

  • The mind set of making money

  • Choosing great states and moods at will

  • Collapsing negative states and thoughts

  • Conditioning yourself for success

  • Understanding yourself and others

  • Life Coaching for yourself and for paying clients

  • Therapy for yourself and for paying clients

  • Getting rid of the blocks that stop you or hold you back

  • Eliminating fears and phobias

  • Clear thinking for better decision making

  • Taking stock of your life and aligning yourself with your values

  • Resolving conflict and also resolving inner conflict

  • Finding effective solutions to problems

  • Changing beliefs

  • Upgrading self image and installing more self esteem

  • The art of asking excellent questions

  • And so much more

 


Whether it’s a job interview or a competition or winning a client or being the one chosen, NLP makes it much easier for you to win and succeed. NLP gives you an unfair advantage over others because you’ll learn how to be the best and how to ‘read’ people, how to predict what they’ll do or think, what makes them tick and how to influence and persuade them.


 


 


NLP helps you to live your life with more zest, joy and enthusiasm every day.


 


Essentially it is a ‘users manual’ for the body, brain and mind. It clearly explains in simple language how and why you do what you do, how and why you feel what you feel, and how to change easily and effortlessly. Any and every human skill, including happiness, great relationships, wealth mastery, fame, genius, sport and every other human skill, has a structure and a strategy and because of this, it can be discovered, learned and installed in others. Many of these have already been clearly mapped by NLP masters and are available for you to install in yourself on your NLP training. The skills tools and techniques are included in your training and so are the methods for acquiring more of them.


 


The NLP training is full of practice sessions that are great fun. You get first hand experience as you do the practical exercises and as you watch others, especially your trainer, doing them. Hearing or reading words alone does not always result in the skill being acquired, so everything you hear or read on your training includes a practical exercise for you to experiment and play with. The training is easy, fun and playful even though you’ll be learning many serious, powerful, life altering skills and abilities.


 


NLP is a prestigious, respected international accreditation, providing you’ve learned via a reputable school with a qualified, recognised trainer. Your NLP skills will increase your worth at work and is a valuable addition to your CV. Your qualification affords you the right also to see paying clients, making you extra money on evenings or weekends, or you could even start your own business, a private practice as a Therapist or a Life Coach, which is a very rewarding career. You will be able to help other people solve their problems, break through blocks and limitations in their lives, heal their past, condition themselves for success and remove fears, habits and phobias.


 


It is not surprising that so many people become passionate about NLP after doing their practitioner, especially if they’ve had a good, seasoned, knowledgeable trainer with a good grasp of the subject and able to bring life, enthusiasm and clarity into it. The field is absolutely fascinating and enchanting. It includes so much old and new, ancient and modern, wisdom re packaged in a way that works for today’s demands of society and life style. There is nothing entirely new in NLP since it is all gleaned from the greatest mankind has every achieved, yet it is entirely new to most people who have not had the time or the exposure or the finances to spend thousands of hours studying hundreds of laborious difficult books trying to make sense of it all. The greatest human knowledge and discoveries are pieced together in the most practical and usable ways so you get all the benefits without having to study tons of boring theory too.


 


NLP was developed at the University of Santa Cruise, California in the early 1970’s by a group of students and professors studying human change and looking very practically for what actually works, irrespective of any theories about what should work or guesses as to why things don’t work. Most of NLP was gleaned from the works of great minds over the ages:


 


  • Anchoring — Behavioural Psychology — Pavlov, “Conditioned Reflexes”, 1904

  • Chunking — Alfred Korzybski, Erickson, Watzlawick — General Semantics

  • Eye patterns – Stanford University, research on synesthesia in the early 70’s.

  • Milton Model –Dr. Milton Erickson, the esteemed brilliant psychiatrist/hypnotist.

  • Meta Model — Noam Chomsky (applied in therapy: Virginia Satir, “Conjoint Family Therapy”)

  • Outcome Frames – System thinking, Business studies and goal achievement.

  • Parts — Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir

  • Reframing — General Semantics, Watzlawick, Keeney,

  • Sleight of Mouth — Patterns of Plausible Inference, G. Polya

  • SubModalities — Work on Synesthesia at Stanford University 1970-1978.

  • Strategies, TOTE — Miller, Galanter & Pribram, “Plans and the Structure of Behaviour,” 1965

  • Time Lines – William James, Principles of Psychology, 1890, the Chapter on Memory.

  • Neurological Conditioning comes from Behavioural Science experiments

  • Sensory Acuity – used extensively by the CID and the military to tell if a witness or a soldier is lying or telling the truth.

 


NLP became famous for its incredibly quick and effective techniques, such as the 5 minute phobia cure and the Six Step Reframe for removing habits and creating weight loss, yet NLP is far more than the techniques, it is the attitude and methodology that gave birth to the techniques, and it is a set of building blocks and tools from which more techniques may be created or discovered.


 


An NLP-therapist is a therapist using the procedures mentioned above.


 


NLP techniques offer some particularly useful help for businesses in the areas of change management, sales, leadership, dispute management, recruitment, motivation and consulting. If you don’t know NLP, you won’t notice when it’s being used.


 


NLP has completely changed the lives of thousands of people world wide and is said to be the most valuable set of skills, tools and techniques ever put together. It is fast, it is effective and it is fun. Once you’ve done your NLP Practitioner training, you’ll have some awesome skills and very useful abilities to affect every area of your life in ways that will quite astonish you and those you live and work with.


 


The progression is from NLP Practitioner to NLP Master Practitioner. After that, and once you’ve practiced and attained a level of mastery, you may then do NLP Trainer’s training and begin teaching NLP.


 


 


Affordable NLP!


 


Don’t let the exorbitant prices of NLP trainings keep you from learning


 


Because NLP is such an effective and powerful set of tools, it has become much sought after in recent years all over the world. Consequently, it has also escalated in price to many thousands of US Dollars, and way too expensive for the average person.  Another sad fact is that many untrained, poorly trained or self trained people are teaching NLP unethically and badly and charging a fortune too.


 


We find this very sad because, as many of you know, if everyone knew NLP well, the world would change drastically for the better and improve life for everyone. It’s up to YOU to make yourself happy, rich and successful!


 


Mahatma Ghandi said, “We must be the change we want to see in the world.”


 


Learn NLP for less


 


Having the skills to communicate effectively with anyone at any level would already result in a sharp improvement in the quality of your whole life – professionally, domestically and personally. Confidence, self belief and being able to put yourself in an excellent state and mood will assure your success, as any great achiever will tell you. NLP gives you these skills plus it teaches you how to influence others.


 


For those of you who don’t yet know…  once properly trained in NLP you can:


  • Understand other people and human behaviour

  • Be able to get agreement that is acceptable in any situation

  • Cure a multitude of ills, fears, unwanted  habits and emotional problems

  • Solve conflicts, make better decisions and condition yourself for success

  • Change unwanted beliefs and behaviours in your self and others

  • Find direction in life and set motivating goals and outcomes

  • Drastically increase your income and earning potential

 



What is NLP

What If You Have Many Different Interests and Cannot Commit to Any of Them?

If you’re attracted to many different pursuits and can’t commit to any single one of them for your career, college major, or income source, then good for you! Leonardo da Vinci was in the same boat. He’s considered by many to be the greatest genius of all time.


The notion that you have to commit to a single trade for life (or even for a decade or two) makes sense if you want to live like an industrial worker drone. But then you’re just filling the role of a cog in a giant machine, perfectly disposable and easily replaced by similar cogs.


Let me guess… the people telling you (maybe even yelling at you) to pick one thing and commit to it are also on the drone path themselves, right? Do you honestly want their results? Or would you like something better?


It’s perfectly okay to reject the drone path, you know. Lots of people do, and they’re much happier for it. But they aren’t the same people that will tell you, “Pick one thing and stick to it, or you’ll never amount to anything.” Instead they’ll probably say, “The more interests you pursue, the smarter you’ll become.”


There’s no rule that says you must commit to being a drone


I don’t want to commit to any one thing for life. I don’t even like committing to just one thing for a month. I have too many interests. If I picked just one thing and let all the rest go, I wouldn’t be happy. I’d just feel trapped. So I chose to reject that option. I can see that it isn’t right for me. Hmmm… for some reason the people that said I should specialize got a lot quieter when my eclectic interests started paying off financially.


Presently I enjoy writing, blogging, speaking, podcasting, online business, studying self-improvement, philosophy, humor, disc golf, psychic development, etc. Why should I pick just one? Am I a blogger, an author, a speaker, a personal development expert, an Internet entrepreneur? So I have a chaotic resume. Who cares?


In the past I trained in martial arts (tae kwon do and kempo), did lots of distance running including a marathon, learned to count cards at blackjack, performed with a comedy improv troupe, learned to juggle, designed and programmed computer games, and did lots of other things I enjoyed. Many of these activities were pursued on weekdays between the hours of 9am and 5pm. But guess what… nobody came to arrest me for it. The earth didn’t spin off its axis because I failed to pick just one thing.


If you have lots of interests, people will complain. Let them.


It might be hard to see it unless you hang out with me in person, but I switch back and forth between various interests all the time. Sometimes I’m really dedicated to writing/blogging for several days in a row. Other times I’ll put my blog on the back burner, and I’ll spend more time speaking or just working on personal growth.


Sometimes people complain when I slack off on blogging to pursue other interests, but I retain the freedom to make that choice when I know it’s right for me. Since there are hundreds of free articles in the archives and 21 freepodcasts, and since the forums are available 24/7, I don’t feel like I have to post something every day to keep the blog going. If my blog starts to feel like a “monkey on my back,” I simply let it go for a while. Then I pick it up again when I’m inspired to return to it.


Whenever I pull back from one area to pursue another, I get the “What happened to you? Where have you been?” questions. If I take a few months off from going to Toastmasters meetings (such as I did while writing my book), my friends wonder what happened to me. Did I fall off the planet? Am I quitting the club? If I don’t blog for a week, somebody may start a new “Is Steve dead?” discussion in the forums. I just accept that this happens. It’s a natural consequence of having a variety of interests. I’m not dead. I’m just switching modes. This week I’m really inspired to do some blogging. Earlier this year I was more focused on writing my book. Later this year I’ll be doing a lot of work to promote my book.


Many interests = faster growth = becoming smarter


The benefit of having lots of different interests is that you train your brain to learn many new patterns. The patterns you learn in one field can then be applied to totally different fields to solve problems creatively.


Within a single field, the dominant experts tend to develop tunnel vision. They get attached to certain patterns. They frequently network with each other, so they all know each other’s favorite patterns. This definitely happens in the field of personal development.


But often the people who do the most innovative work are the outsiders who arrive with fresh patterns that the existing experts haven’t been exposed to. This is great because these outsiders can stimulate lots of growth. Albert Einstein is a good example. While he worked as a patent clerk, he had virtually no contact with the mainstream physics community.


One of the reasons I’ve been so successful as a personal development blogger is that I came into this field as an outsider. My college degrees are in computer science and mathematics, not psychology or philosophy. Because of my background, I often notice patterns that other people in this field overlook (or simply discount).


What makes me different from most other experts in this field is that I tend to think in binary and algorithmic terms. When you write a computer program, either it produces the desired output or it doesn’t. A math problem is either solved or it isn’t. You can’t use a half-assed or fuzzy approach in those fields and expect to succeed. Either you’re right or you’re wrong. Either you have a solution that works, or you don’t. There isn’t much of an in-between where you can squeak by. If you want to succeed in computer science or math, you have to be good at solving problems. Your solutions have to actually work. You can’t fake it or B.S. your way into a computer’s good graces and expect it to ignore your personal failings. If you’re wrong, you get zero results. A bad program usually doesn’t degrade gracefully — the program simply won’t run at all.


When I got interested in personal development, one thing that really annoyed me was just how wishy washy and imprecise everything was. There were entire bookshelves filled with what I considered to be utter B.S. The books promised practical solutions to real problems, but inside all you’d find would be vapid drivel and stories of exaggerated results. After reading lots of computer programming books and learning precise solutions that would work properly every time, this was a big change for me.


Since I like patterns that are very tight, precise, and effective, I dislike solutions that aren’t universal. I also dislike gray areas since I prefer to think in more black and white terms. So I’m inclined to say things like, “Either you’re doing what you love, or you aren’t. Which is it?” I know my approach won’t appeal to everyone, and more than once I’ve been accused of being too rigid in my thinking, but I also know there’s a place for this mindset in the self-help field.


Similarly, if you were a psychologist coming into the field of computer science, you might be inclined to introduce problem-solving methods that allow for more fluidity and imprecision… such as fuzzy logic.


When I wrote my book Personal Development for Smart People, I developed a pseudo-mathematical model for personal growth, including a complete structural framework I’ve never seen anywhere else in this field. I could have subtitled my book, “The hidden geometry of personal growth.” (If you follow that last link and scroll down a bit, you’ll see a triangle that represents the essence of that model.) Maybe we can’t get as precise as mathematics when dealing with conscious growth, but I think we can get a lot closer than we are now.


If you like thinking about personal growth in fairly linear terms — i.e. tell me how to figure out what I want and how to get there — you’ll probably love my book. But if you prefer a more Zen-like, go-with-the-flow, allow-life-to-happen-to-you style, you’ll probably find my book too rigid for your tastes. Nevertheless, I have no doubt this book will carve out a strong position in its field (just as my blog has done) because its creative solutions and patterns will help people solve problems in new ways.


Now imagine if I switched careers again. I could then apply patterns I learned from all the other fields I studied to produce creative, original work in that new field. Patterns from personal growth, math, computer science, blogging, martial arts, etc. would surely generate new solutions in seemingly unrelated fields.


Even when I play disc golf with my friends, I apply patterns I learned in other fields. For example, my disc golf buddies all have a preferred throwing style for their drives — they almost always throw their drives using the same technique. But I will employ different throwing styles to adapt to the terrain. Sometimes I’ll do forehand throws, sometimes I’ll use backhand, and sometimes I’ll throw rollers — all within the same game. This means I don’t get as much practice with any single style, but I can be more flexible in adapting to the terrain.


That was a very basic example, but “adapting solutions to the terrain” was actually a pattern I learned from computer programming. Programmers will often use different algorithms to solve essentially the same problem, adapting their solutions to the specific circumstances. There are lots of different sorting and searching algorithms, and the optimal solution depends on the particular problem you want to solve. When I play disc golf, I ask myself, “What is the correct throwing technique (algorithm) I need to use here to help me minimize (optimize) the number of throws it will take me to get to the basket (goal)?”


You’ll be surprised at how many opportunities there are to use insights you learn in one field to solve problems in a seemingly unrelated field. The long-term benefit of cultivating many different interests is that you build a powerful toolkit of problem-solving patterns. This gives you more flexibility when facing certain challenges. People sometimes praise me for a brilliant insight that helped them solve a challenging problem when all I did was cross-pollinate a known solution pattern from one field to another.


Making money from your varied interests – creative solutions


It’s important to note that you don’t have to earn money from all of your interests. If you just dive in and pursue what you enjoy, you may be surprised to find out which interests help you generate income and which don’t.


Most of my interests don’t generate any income directly, and that’s perfectly fine. But a lot of them do, including hosting advertising on this website, writing a book, doing professional speaking, and reviewing and recommending products.


What earns me the most money right now? My income is fairly diversified, but the single most lucrative activity for me at present is reviewing and recommending products — not blogging or speaking. You might think I earn the most money from all the writing I do, but that isn’t how it works. Perhaps my writing is what creates the most value for others, but it doesn’t generate the most income… at least not directly.


Publishers frequently send me information products to review. At any given time, I usually have 50-100 books and several days worth of audio/video in my queue. I listen to audio programs at the gym or on my computer at 2-4x playback speed, and I PhotoRead lots of books. (Incidentally, Learning Strategies is currently repeating their PhotoReading discount for StevePavlina.com readers this month — something they’ve done only once per year. I’ll make a separate blog post about that shortly after this one.)


When I encounter something I really, really love and feel good about recommending, I work out a profit-sharing deal with the publisher in exchange for recommending and promoting their product on my site. This works great for information products because the profit margin is often 80% or higher, since the value is in the information, not the packaging. Usually I can also get them to offer my readers a better deal than if you bought from them directly. This arrangement is a win for the publishers because they gain many new customers with no marketing costs. A good product will do more than $100,000 in sales in the first 30 days if I recommend it. It’s a win for me because I get all the free products I could ever desire, and I earn six figures a year just from a handful of recommendations. Once I’ve posted my product review, I enjoy an ongoing passive income from ongoing sales, receiving commission checks every month. The benefit for my readers is that they get introduced to the best products I find — often with a discount or bonus andalways with a money-back guarantee so there’s no risk. Additionally, all the free articles and podcasts are basically subsidized by this arrangement, so I can afford to invest many hours writing new articles like this one without having to charge for the information. All things considered, I think this is an incredibly fair deal for everyone.


However, the honest truth is that while I enjoy reviewing and recommending products from time to time, I don’t want to turn this single activity into my full-time career. I don’t want my blog to become nothing but a product review site. What you may not realize though is that by deciding to pursue other interests, I’m leaving a lot of potential income on the table. If I really wanted to, I’m sure I could earn 5-10x more money from this website… virtually overnight. How to do that is a no-brainer. Instead of recommending just a few products per year, I could recommend a new product every week or two. I certainly have no shortage of products to choose from. But in order to get there, I’d have to do one of two things.


The first option would be endorse more products, regardless of whether I thought they were any good. There are many products backed by slick marketing that sell well online, but the underlying information is worthless junk. I wouldn’t even need to look at the products, so that would save me tons of time. Some publishers actually offer me pre-written endorsement letters, and all I’d need to do would be to affix my name and send them off. You’ll encounter many Internet marketers who do this very thing, proudly recommending products they’ve never tried, just because they know it will make them money. I see the same endorsement letters I’ve been offered showing up in other people’s newsletters. Don’t worry though — you won’t see me going this route. Personally I can’t stomach the thought of doing anything like this. It isn’t aligned with truth and love, and it’s also the wrongpolarity for me. I’m simply sharing that if my #1 goal was to earn more money by doing just one thing, I could certainly do it. But I think I’ll hang onto my soul for now.


Since I can summarily reject the first option, the other option would be to review a lot more products. Hopefully by reviewing more products in less time, I’d be able to find more gems. If I did nothing but review and recommend products full-time, I could probably find 20-30 really good ones I could honestly recommend each year. But this would mean I’d have to dump a lot of my other interests, and I’m simply not willing to do that, even if it means earning 10x more money. I’m happier earning less money while maintaining a good balance of activities I enjoy. So I have to reject this option because it isn’t aligned with love.


My point is that you don’t have to go after the option that makes you the most money. You can pursue many different interests and still find a creative mix that allows you to earn money AND maintain an abundant lifestyle AND be happy AND make a difference. It’s a huge mistake to pursue money at all costs, especially if you have to sacrifice so many of the things you love doing. Do what you enjoy, and leave the extra money on the table.


I’ve met a few Internet marketers who will pimp themselves to promote any potentially lucrative products they come across, milking their lists for as much money as they can, without even trying the products they endorse. They pride themselves on being able to manipulate emotions to get people to buy. They boast about how much money they make from promoting overpriced crap to people who are too naive to know any better. (I can attest to the veracity of the “crap” label because my office toilet is permanently stained from flushing many of the products they’ve sent me.) After conversing with such people for a while, I feel like I’ve been drenched in darkworker slime. What do I say to them? “Sorry, I can’t help promote your products on my site because you’re evil.” I’m not sure how that one would fly.


Fortunately I’ve found a good way of responding to such people. I simply say, “Unfortunately my intuition says no on this, so I’ll have to pass.” I really love that line because they have no defense against it, and best of all, it’s the truth. If I say anything else, they usually pop into “counter objections mode” and try to turn me. But they have no means of arguing against my intuition because they’re so out of touch with theirs. (If you’re one of the people who happened to be on the receiving end of this line from me, it doesn’t normally mean I think you’re evil. It’s just one of many stock replies I give for business offers I must decline.)


If I try to challenge such people to realign themselves with truth and love, that sometimes has the side effect of making them want to light saber me. Eventually I’ll find a way to turn one of them. Such people are pretty well aligned with power, but what they don’t yet realize is that if they could bring themselves into alignment with truth and love as well, they’d become even more powerful. They’d also be a lot happier and more fulfilled. This may sound strange, but I’m actually thinking of offering consultations to such people to help them restore balance to their lives. They’re in a position to positively affect a lot of other people if they can get it right, so helping even one of those people can create a lot of leverage. But of course I couldn’t do that… because that would mean pursuing yet another interest. <- Yes, this is sarcasm!


Now that was a fun tangent. Ugh… don’t try to mix math and humor.


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If you aspire to be a one-hit wonder, by all means go for it. Otherwise, take note that historically speaking, people would develop a variety of skills to meet their needs. Overspecialization may be good for corporations, but it’s not so great for conscious human beings. Even a farmer from the 1850s probably has you beat in the skills diversity department. Can you look out at a vacant plot of land and build your own self-sustaining farm and a home for your family with some basic hand tools? (If you can say yes to that, then come to Las Vegas this summer and prove it!)


The next time someone tells you to settle down and pick just one thing for your career, your college major, or your source of income, I recommend you reply as follows: “I appreciate your concern, but since I don’t share your dream of becoming a prized poodle, I must reject your advice as being utterly stupid.”


Then challenge them to a round of disc golf.



What If You Have Many Different Interests and Cannot Commit to Any of Them?